Ten Things Every Child with Autism Wishes You Knew

Author: Notbohm, Ellen

Publication Date:

June 2019



Original language and publisher

English | Future Horizons

Territories Handled

France, Netherlands, Scandinavia

Territories Sold

Czech Republic (Portal)
Israel (Matar)
China ()
Turkey (Andante)
France (Dunod, at auction)
Canada (French) (Hurtubise, at auction)


Parenting, Psychology

Ten Things Every Child with Autism Wishes You Knew

Author: Notbohm, Ellen


Parents will find a compassionate, astute ally who has lived the journey…Ten Things contains a remarkable amount of detailed information, helpful suggestions, and concrete strategies. Realistic, practical, and uplifting. – Debra Moore, PhD, Psychologist and Coauthor with Temple Grandin of The Loving Push: How Parents and Professionals Can Help Spectrum Kids Become Successful Adults

Not just a compassionate and person-centered look at autism, Ten Things is also a reflection on evolving understandings of advocacy, support, and ability. – Paula Kluth, PhD, Author of You’re Going to Love This Kid and Pedro’s Whale

Great book for the parent of a child who is newly diagnosed. It will help the parent who is frightened by the diagnosis get started on creating a positive outcome for their child. – Temple Grandin, PhD, Author of The Way I See It and Thinking in Pictures

Essential reading for people who are important in your child’s life, to help them understand your child’s complex social, sensory, behavioral, and emotional challenges …helps readers recognize that while they may feel overwhelmed, they are never powerless. – Lindsey Biel, Occupational Therapist, Coauthor of Raising a Sensory Smart Child: The Definitive Book for Helping Your Child with Sensory Processing Issues and author of Sensory Processing Strategies

The third edition explains our evolving insights into autism that are so valuable for parents, professionals, and those who have autism. Please grant the wish of the autistic child you know, and absorb the wisdom and clarity of a book that I highly recommend. – Tony Attwood, PhD, author, Ask Dr. Tony: Answers from the World’s Leading Authority on Asperger’s Syndrome/High-Functioning Autism

This third edition is amazing, and an absolute must-read. Ellen has absorbed so much more wisdom from both the autism world and the autistic world and poured it into her work, and I’m floored. Buy this book, read it, loan it, share it, then read it again! –Jennifer McIlwee Myers, Aspie-at-Large, author of How to Teach Life Skills to Kids with Autism or Asperger’s

I wouldn’t have believed that Ellen Notbohm could improve on her original classic, the excellent Ten Things Every Child with Autism Wishes You Knew, but she has done just that. Speaking as a parent, as one who works with autistic people, and as an avid reader on the subject, I’m telling you: you must have this book on your shelf. Parents who made it through your child’s early years with hope and optimism intact because you had the original Ten Things, you need this update. Notbohm will take you from the preschool years through middle school, high school, and beyond, continuing to inform and inspire parents as they prepare their children for adulthood. The questions for discussion and reflection are perfect for parent support groups, teacher trainings, or book clubs. Optimism abounds. – Wendela Whitcomb Marsh, MA, BCBA, RSD, author of The ABC’s of Autism in the Classroom

How wonderful that Ellen Notbohm’s classic, Ten Things Every Child With Autism Wishes You Knew, is here for a new generation! If your child has been diagnosed with autism, or if you think that your child may have autism, this is the first book that you should read. – Bobby Sheahan, author of What I Wish I’d Known about Raising a Child with Autism

The book I found most helpful and most hopeful after my son’s diagnosis. I’ve recommended it to many parents and, like me, they’ve fallen completely in love with it. – Maura Campbell, Senior Editor of Spectrum Women magazine

Ellen Notbohm reminds us once again that we should learn more than we teach and listen more than we talk. Ten Things emphasizes these points and offers readers important insights and invaluable information. If you have a 1st or 2nd edition, you will want to purchase a new copy as this book is not just a compassionate and person-centered look at autism, it is also a reflection on a changing field and on evolving understandings of advocacy, support, and ability. –Paula Kluth, PhD, author of You’re Going to Love This Kid and Pedro’s Whale

Empowers the individual to have control in a world that in many ways feels out of control. A must-have for your autism resource collection. – Jim Ball, EdD, BCBA-D, President/CEO JB Autism Consulting

This new edition of one of the autism community’s most beloved classics is sharper, tighter and streamlined by at least 10%. A lot of the back matter is gone and there’s an all-new chapter that’s stronger and will have wide appeal.

Ellen has updated Ten Things Every Child with Autism Wishes You Knew to make it as cross-cultural, cross-border, cross socio-economic strata and as genderless as possible. Revisions have been made to the book to recognize shifts in disability culture and the rise of the adult autistic community. Also, there’s a solid new 8-page Preface. And the all-new section illuminates the surprising breadth of our power of choice and outlines potent strategies for strong decision-making in every situation.

A child’s voice leads into each chapter, offering a one-of-a-kind exploration into how ten core characteristics of autism affect our children’s perceptions and reactions to the surrounding physical, sensory and social environments. This third edition sharpens the focus on these basic aspects while expanding on how our own perspectives shape the life of our child and ourselves, today, tomorrow, and for years to come.

Ten Things Every Child with Autism Wishes You Knew has informed, delighted, and guided millions of families and professionals the world over since its first edition published more than a decade ago. This 2019 edition will reach farther and wider!

An internationally renowned author, Ellen Notbohm’s work has informed, inspired, and delighted millions in more than twenty languages. In addition to her four perennially popular award-winning books on autism and her multiple-award-winning novel The River by Starlight, her articles and posts on such diverse subjects as history, genealogy, baseball, writing and community affairs have appeared in major publications and captured audiences on
every continent.

Marketing Information

  • Μore than 250,000 COPIES SOLD in the US
  • Translated into more than 20 languages since first publication
  • 3rd Edition Revised and Updated published June 2019
  • Amazing accolades for this new edition


  • Bronze Winner in Psychology, Foreword Book of the Year Awards
  • Honorable Mention in Parenting, Foreword Book of the Year Awards
  • Gold Award, Mom’s Choice Awards
  • iParenting Media Award
  • Grand Prize Short List, 2020 Eric Hoffer Book Awards
  • Montaigne Medal finalist, 2020 Eric Hoffer Book Awards
  • First Runner-up in Health, 2020 Eric Hoffer Book Awards
  • Da Vinci Eye Award finalist, 2020 Eric Hoffer Book Awards
  • National Indie Excellence Awards 2020, finalist in Parenting and Family
  • Instruction and Insight Awards finalist, Chanticleer International 2019 Book Awards
  • American Book Fest 2019 Best Book Awards finalist in Parenting




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