Did You Remember To...?

Original title: T’as pensé à…?

Publication Date:

January 2020



Original language and publisher

Territories Handled

Worldwide excl. French



Did You Remember To...?

Original title: T’as pensé à…?


In her book, she explains why it is so difficult for certain women not to succumb to mental pressure. She also gives certain tools for better understanding how to install an equilibrium, in the couple. – Esther Degbe, The Huffington Post

Coline Charpentier then uses fact, proven by statistics, to illustrate the persistence of a phenomenon that is provoked by patriarchal society.  – Pauline Thurier, Inrockuptibles

To be put between all hands, of men and women alike. —Benjamin Muller, La Maison des Maternelles, France 5

I’m not hiding the fact that we receive hundreds of books every week; I opened yours: in a few words, it greatly moved me and I loved it! […] It’s really well done, so I recommend it from the bottom of my heart. — Daphné Bürki, Je t’aime etc…, France 2

With this guide, Coline Charpentier offers the opening of a dialogue on mental burden. — Centre Presse

Self-defense guide on the mental load

A 33-year-old teacher and mother of a young child, openly and fiercely feminist, sees her world crumble the day she realizes she has been unconsciously replicating an age-old model: that of the woman taking charge of the entire organization and management of the household. After months of assessment and questioning she manages to put into words what was over-whelming her: the mental load. It is all the thoughts one must constantly have to plan and organize a household: listing the groceries; planning the laundry and the housework; organizing the weekends and holidays… An invisible and underrated burden that is most generally both carried by and spontaneously attributed to women.

Coline Charpentier decided to open the Instagram ac-count, “T’as pensé à…?” (“Did you remember to…?”), where she asks women of all ages and social back-grounds to testify about their own experiences with mental load in order to understand how it occurs. The account was met with wide acclaim and facilitated open discussion about this very common, yet under-rated, problem that most couples encounter.

In this new book, she opens the dialogue to couples and offers solutions to allow them to face this issue. How do you measure the mental load in your family? How do you respond to skeptics, who think that women “Are simply better at organizing”? And, most importantly, how do you free yourself from the mental load, in order to make love and equality the pillars of your household?

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